"teach the older women to live in a way that honours God... they should teach others what is good... they must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good [to be self-controlled, good-natured (kindhearted)]"
One of the things I love about the church in general is that we are united by a common bond. Age doesn't factor in.
When I read these verses I am reminded, and surprised a little again, that some of my best friends and mentors are women who are closer to my mother's age than mine.
But in our friendships, that has never mattered.
They were my wisdom when I whinged about Daniel, or collapsed in weariness over being up all night feeding unsettled babes; they reminded me of how fleeting these days are with little ones under my feet. They told me I could do it. They cuddled my babies and reminded me to speak in love to (and about) my husband.
They have been in ministry. They have raised their babies, fed families, grown veggie gardens and made yoghurt from scratch and they teach me what they know.
Not formally, but in relationships that have grown organically. Its in these friendships they've earned my respect and adoration, that their words have weight, even in gentle rebuke.
I have watched them love their husbands and families and work in their homes, and learned, and imitated. And I'll still be learning. I'm watching the way they navigate their teenagers, and high school, and taking note of the boundaries they're putting in place. I'll continue to need them!
But now my little people are growing, and are not so much under my feet.
My nights are generally uninterrupted, and my days are free from wiping noses and bottoms, or feeding and dressing.
So maybe it's my turn to give.
To model a home that is full of grace. To show young mamas with their bleary sleep-deprived eyes, and teary hormonal days how to live amidst the crazy, beautiful mess, and live it well.
I've been reading Titus, along with She Reads Truth and I'm linking over there to share these thoughts.