Thursday, October 31, 2013
what we did instead
I'm not a person with massively strong convictions.
You could probably win me over to your side in an argument in 5 minutes flat, most times.
In any massive debate, I tend to sit on the fence and nod and "mmmhmm" to points from both parties. I can see things from the point of view of many.
And sometimes I can't make up my mind who to agree with.
Halloween was one such topic, until today. October 31st.
As my kids get older I become increasingly aware of what they are/aren't putting into their little spirits. Not just how much time they're watching ABC iView, but what they're watching.
Who their friends are, where they're getting their values from.
And all of a sudden Halloween is upon us and I have to decide where I sit, because now it affects them. Because what I believe, they'll also believe for now.
Maybe they'll question it later. I hope they do, they will need to decide for themselves one day.
But for now, we don't do Halloween.
As usual, I considered both sides of the argument.
I considered the fact that it's hardly celebrated here in Australia, that it's not really a big deal anyway, that really it's just a bit of fun and some lollies. I did.
I also considered how it would come across to others.
That we don't want to be stuck-in-the-mud "Christians" who never have any fun, and never let their kids do anything. And get labeled, and misunderstood.
But I couldn't do it.
Something in me just didn't want to budge on this one.
Yes it's pretty harmless, and it's mostly about lollies.
Which is mostly what Eden was devastated about when I told her we'd not be attending a class Halloween party, or doing any trick-or-treating. There were tears.
So this afternoon I sat with the kids and had a pretty simple conversation.
I asked them about things they think are pure and lovely.
Peppa Pig, obviously. Flowers. Our family. Butterflies. Being outside. Being kind to each other.
I asked them if scary witches that give us nightmares are lovely.
What about werewolves and monsters and zombies and vampires?
And what sorts of things should we be celebrating?
Birthdays. Holidays. Things that are lovely.
Is Halloween lovely?
I think they got it.
I think the lollipops I gave them afterwards helped.
* I took this photo at the circus we went to in the school holidays. I think it's my favourite one of Joel yet.
Posted by Em at 8:22 PM